SOTAC Celebrates Two-Year Anniversary



We decided to keep the celebration low-key this year, but fun nonetheless...if you are in the Queen City in July, feel free to come and meet me and the rest of the SOTAC staff for memorable evening...Two years, nine issues later and we are still going strong.  Yay SOTAC! 

Should I be offended


Should I be offended by the fact that I am a model/actress who has lots of friends who are photographers, graphic designers, filmmakers and videographers, casting directors, etc. yet my own friends (who are very much aware of my serious work ethic and talent) will rarely consider me for projects that they are working on. One could say its because of the friendship thing...not wanting to mix business and pleasure. I thought of that. Thats not it because I've seen the very same people involved go the extra mile for their other friends and even former ex-girlfriends and boyfriends on occasion. Crazy right? Why not throw a sista, who is trying to do the right thing, some extra help. Whats the point of knowing the right people if they cant help you out, lol. Well, let it be known from this day forward if anyone I know is casting for a show, a movie, a fashion show, a magazine, a theatre production, etc, etc. needs a model for a mix tape, a flyer, a Cd cover, a book cover--whatever, I'm here...I'm available...I'm ready.



I know that everything happens for a reason, but I would really like some feedback from my people about this one...the question is...will they speak up?

As a side note...I'm not going to allow how others treat me to affect how I am going to treat them...I'm going to continue to hook my people up regardless...My friends can attest to the fact that I will publish them, send clients their way or otherwise publicize whatever they are into...that's just me...I need to remember that we give not to get, but simply for the joy of giving...but hey, I'm only human and even I have my moments of feeling unloved and underappreciated...But I'm good, I'm just glad I have this outlet to vent my frustrations.

Sexiness Defined

Why is it that the brothers that you don't want are the ones who are bold enough to ask for what they want. While, the men that you are attracted to play all of the games...or better yet, play the "I'm married to my career card"...yet I guarantee, those are the same ones who are easily swayed by the women who are not good for them, or at least not worth their time. Listen, I have a lot going on too, but I am a firm believer in you make time for the things that you really want...which leads me into the topic at hand. Jameka's definition of sexy...Now, I usually don't like using the word sexy, but for today's lesson, we are simply stuck with it. As I have mentioned in numerous previous entries, I get soooo many emails per day asking me crazy stuff...however, one consistent theme is "what do I find attractive and sexy in the opposite sex" (unfortunately that question is not routinely phrased in such a grammatically correct manner, but more on that later). I figured since so many people wanted to know, I would give you what you keep asking for. I am posting this in two places...on myspace and on "Thoughts on Being Seen (jameka-shamae.blogspot.com)." So here we go:

What I find attractive, sensual and sexy in a man:

1). Strong Spiritual Connection
Nothing is more attractive to me than someone who knows that God is not only at the center of his life, but at the head. No matter how confident and talented a man may be, if he doesn't attribute his success to God, then we have no future.

2). Intelligence/Excellent Communication Skills
I'm not asking for a Harvard graduate here, just someone who can put together a coherent sentence, has the ability to speak in basic proper English and isn't afraid to express himself completely with me. I love to talk, and I love to hear the man that I am with talk about himself---Tell me about your day, what pissed you off, what made you happy...and please don't forget to ask me about my day as well. I want to know that you care about what's going on with me in my world. And I definitely want to know about what's going on with you. I'm a strong independent woman, who is looking for an equally strong man to build with.

3). Honesty
Tell me the truth, and we will always be okay. Fellas, know this, lies and half-truths hurt...no matter how you slice it, they hurt.

4)Sense of Humor
A man who can laugh at himself and the world around him is such a turn on. I like my men a little silly, sarcastic and very witty. I'm quite sarcastic, so you have to be able to keep up with me. I find something to laugh and smile about each day.

5)Personal Style
I find men who have their own distinct sense of personal style appealing because it shows me that they are comfortable in their own skin. There should never be a time, I mean under any circumstances, should you look like you walked into a store and purchased exactly what the mannequin was wearing...or better yet, liking a celebrity's style is one thing...completely emulating them, something completely different. Fellas, you are not Kanye, stop dressing exactly like him.

6) Talent & Ambition
For me, ambition is sexy...if you know what you want and you go for your dreams, then I will be your biggest cheerleader and encourager. I'm working hard to make my mark in the industry too, so I know how difficult it can be without a partner to bounce ideas off from and without someone with whom you can share your excitement. And let's face it, I have a very soft spot in my heart for Poets, Musicians, Actors, Writers, Graphic Designers, Artists, Producers, Photographers and anyone else who is talented and has chosen a "creative" career path. Y'all are my weakness...However, as talented as a man may be, if he doesn't have the drive and passion to back the talent up...no dice.

7) Confidence
I love it when a man is strong and confident in himself. I hate it when he is arrogant. You can be sure of yourself and still humble at the same time. Humility is a beautiful thing...and sexy too.

8)Considerate
I like romance. And I am a southern belle at heart, so I find true gentlemen attractive. I will allow you to open doors, pay for dates and help me with my coat. I like it when you guide me through the crowd on a busy street. I enjoy flowers on occaision (fyi- pink roses are my favorite)

9)Common sense/Street Smarts
I grew up in the hood. I have a lot of people in my family who still have that deep ghetto mentality. I need someone who can understand my experiences, doesn't get squimish at the sound of a gunshot or get scared when you see the thugs hanging out on the corner...I am just as comfortable in the hood as I am in the boardroom, and I need someone who can roll with that.

10) Respectful
My motto for 2006 is "Come correct, or Don't come at all." At lot of that has to do with respect for oneself and others. Do not, and I repeat call me "ma," "honey," "boo" or "baby" without permission. There is currently only one man who is allowed to call me "baby" and he knows who he is. He has my affection and permission...anyone else, my name is Jameka.


Well, that's my list for now...it's a work in progress. I didn't really put any physical attributes on the list because that is not what is most important...Clearly from the men on my top 16, you can see that I enjoy the company of attractive men; however, looks fade.

Comments are welcomed:)

Peace & Blessings








What kind of love is right for you? (girls only)



TRUE LOVE! is right for you...you're romantic loving and caring, your love is gentel and honest. You will do anything for your loved one and he will do anything for you. You two just like being with each other. I hope you will find your true love...or if you already found it hold on to it, because you probably dont know how lucky you are.
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Definitions

According to Dictionary.com:

Liar-

n : a person who has lied or who lies repeatedly

Omission-

1 : something neglected, left out, or left undone
2 : the act, fact, or state of leaving something out or failing to do something esp. that is required by duty, procedure, or law.

Commission-

: an act of committing something

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Whether or not we lie by commission (with malice) or omission (neglect)...it's still a lie. Sometimes issues of right and wrong are really as simple as black and white.

Nevertheless, if God can forgive us for all that we do on a daily basis, then the very least I can do is show compassion and love for those who stumble and fall from time to time. We all come with baggage...and understanding that is sometimes half the battle.

Tell someone that you love them today...a family member, a friend, your mom...someone, I promise it'll make your day brighter.

Not sure where this blog came from today, I just felt compelled to write it. Hope you got something from it.

Peace.

Unconditional

I learned something pretty important about myself today...that I can love and care about people unconditionally. I am capable of just seeing people for who they really are...instead of who they once were. Believe me this is big...I did not always think like this.


For instance, I found out some interesting, yet fairly disturbing information about someone that I really care about. This information was about their past...I won't lie, for an instant I felt betrayed, mislead, insert whatever applicable emotion...but after only maybe five minutes of thinking about it, I realized that having that info helped to reaffirm that I care about this person "in spite of"...In spite of recent trangressions, I still care...In spite of a less than pristine relationship past, I still care. I know that I would want someone to care for me "in spite of."

Sometimes knowledge can be a dangerous thing...but for me, I'm glad that I discovered what I did because it makes me care for this person even more...understanding a person's past helps to appreciate them for who they really are, and better yet...who they hope to be. The past is the past...as long as one learns from it, that's sometimes all that matters...

Justice is Served...How Not to Steal a SideKick

True or not, this was too good not to post. Some idiots for lack of a better word decided to steal someone's sidekick without making sure that they didn't leave any personally identifiable information...this site has pics and email addresses of the suspects and everything. If nothing else, it's a good read.

How Not to Steal A SideKick II

Confessions

As I am getting ready for service this morning, it hit me like a ton of bricks...I would really like to get married soon, and at least have the option of having one kid (yes I said one...I'm my mother's only child, and I enjoyed having my own room and my own stuff). This may not be groundbreaking news to y'all, but for me this is a frightening revelation. Maybe it's all the talk of people being pregnant and getting married that has me yearning for more...but I can't help it. My favorite guy cousin told me that I'm 30 now and it's time for me to start making some decisions...so now the family pressure is on...every time I go to a family gathering, "so who are you dating?"..."What ever happened to the guy you brought to church", etc., etc... Other than that, I'd make a great mom and wife, I learned from the best women on the planet (my mother, my aunts, grandma---all phenomenal women)...

It really doesn't help that the one person I want to start dating exclusively and possibly explore something serious with is far away...while I know I can handle the long distance thing, I'm not sure he can...or better yet if he even wants to or has considered the possibility. Knowing my luck, he'll meet this great woman in his own city, and then I won't have to worry about this anymore (which would really, really, really suck), lol. Don't get my wrong y'all...I'm just thinking out loud here, everything happens in God's time and in the way it is supposed to happen. It's just that I can't help but vent...I'm a sensitive, romantic artist--that's how I'm made...and I wouldn't trade how I view the world and think about things for anything in the world...that's what makes me, me.


You know what else I like about myself...that I am not afraid to be personal and real on a public blog, granted I don't name names...but I am honest about who I am. I will never apologize for letting it all hang out so to speak. The confidence intermixed with the little insecurities that we all have, yet are afraid to talk about...I let it all out...

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