When One Door Closes ...

I must thank my good friend Jan (who also happens to be a phenomenal photographer, www.dracophotography.com, check her out) who reminded me yesterday that I need to let those people (men) who continually disappoint and refuse to step up to the plate go...And she's so right. In the words of my mother, who also happens to be an Evangelist, "I am not going to let the devil steal my joy."

It's time for me to stop worrying about the future and just live. I can't be worrying about if and when I will be in a relationship, get married or anything else like that...I have too much stuff to do. My career is starting to soar. I'm making connections and meeting great people each and every day. The show has been highly successful thus far, with barely any promotion, just imagine if I put more effort into it, lol. The magazine is moving along at a steady pace, and people continue to show us love for what we do. I AM BLESSED. As Jan reiterated, if these men can't see me for the jewel that I believe God has created me to be, then they don't deserve my company. There is truly someone for everyone, and I'm patiently awaiting the right person for me. In the interim...Meka has plenty of work to do...for God...and myself.

Are You Cover Worthy


SOTAC Magazine is holding a contest to see who will grace the cover of our January 2008 Issue--This issue will be dedicated to who we think is the "Next Big Thing." If you believe you have what it takes to appear in the pages of the best new art, style and culture magazine on the east coast, then enter to win today. The winner will star on the cover and shine in a full length SOTAC magazine feature. A panel of professionals from the art, fashion and music industries will judge all entries. Don't miss your chance for great exposure to a diverse audience who enjoys the very best.

For information on how to enter, rules and requirements, email us at contest@sotacmag.com. Deadline: August 31, 2007.

We will take entries in person on Saturday, July 21st from 4:00 p.m.-10:00 p.m. @ The Southend Summer Series Block Party.

Breaking the Boundaries….hmmmm, Let’s Create Some Instead

I consider myself a semi serious blogger, I may not blog everyday, but I try to “let my voice be heard” from time to time. And as I was perusing one of my fav blogs written by my boy Chuck, I realized a few things….men just don’t get us at all. That actually stands to be repeated: MEN JUST DON’T GET US AT ALL. We are constantly stereotyped and placed into nice little convenient pretty boxes (or pedestals, depending on the relationship)…Let me clarify by saying I understand that the reverse is true as well. I have been guilty of stereotyping the fellas, for instance, I’m on this “all guys are stupid” kick. I don’t really believe that all men are stupid, but I am starting to think you all are so simple that seemingly common sense things need to be laid out for you like you were three years old…Matter of fact, a toddler can usually take a hint better than a grown azz man in most instances. They at least understand body language, more than I can say for most of the guys I had to deal with last week, last month, heck, last night.

Let me drop some science on the guys for a moment if I may…There is a huge difference between a little girl playing dress up and a real woman. A girl still runs mad game on dudes in the club, she strings men along, not to mention she thinks sexy equals revealing outfits, too much makeup and pouty shiny gloss-drenched lips. And most importantly, a girl does not realize that there is more to men than “free” drinks, one night stands, “attitude” and getting money (as I hear “make that money girl, don’t let it make you” from one of my cult classics, Playa’s Club, playing in the background).

And in usual fashion, my Caucasian sisters have a tendency to be portrayed so much more positively than other ethnic women. Believe me, many of my close girlfriends are of the blonde blue-eyed variety, so I’m not hating…I’m just making an observation, plus those chicas think the same way I do…and often have drama filled relationships that I couldn’t even fathom, even on my most divalicious days. Men always think the grass is greener, yeah right, keep thinking that if you want to.

Anyway…my point…stop observing a select group of women and thinking that represents us all…In addition, stop mistaking girls for women, if you take my advice, who knows you just might find yourself a jewel worth keeping…Something to think about, lol.

I’m Getting Married…

Yeah right, getting married to my career that is. Although, I’m enjoying the single life wholeheartedly, I think this upcoming year, I’d like to settle down. But that’s going to depend on quite a few things: (1). Getting all aspects of my career under control, redefining my direction, and oh yeah, paying off my student loans (not really part of my career goals, but I gotta get that albatross from off of my neck). (2). Finding the time to develop/nurture a relationship.

Everything happens when the Lord says so, so until then…I’ll keep working, I’ll keep praying, and I will let life happen…

Southern Hospitality at Its Best

The SELF Show crew headed down to Atlanta this past weekend to interview additional folks for the upcoming documentary, HIV/AIDS: The Silent Killer of Our Community. ATL embraced us with open arms, hearts and minds. We met so many beautiful people with powerful stories to tell. They shared valuable information that could very well save someone’s life.

During the one day of filming, I was privileged to take part in an impromptu round table discussion with a group of women about dating, casual sex and of course the prevalence of HIV/AIDS in our community and specifically how it is affecting African American women of all ages.

I am disturbed by the fact that married women seemed to be the highest risk group infected with not only HIV but also most STDs. The reason? They are the ones having unprotected sex with their husbands, completely unaware that their spouses are engaging in unsafe, high risk extramarital affairs with other men, women or both. Although it makes me sad, it makes me angry more. These men are putting themselves and their families at risk…why, would you knowingly do such a thing…pride, narcissism, general lack of morals, stupidity---what? Then on the other hand, these women are not asking enough questions and holding themselves responsible for their own health. Where does it stop?

Right now, I choose not to engage in premarital sex for religious reasons, but even if it were not because of my faith, I would still be hesitant to have casual sex in this day and age. There are many crazy things going on out there…my advice, keep it locked unless you truly know your partner’s sexual history. Do not get caught up in the moment. Having safer sex (I say safer sex because the only way to stay completely safe is abstinence) should be mandatory, not an after thought. Either that or start traveling with a portable HIV test—whatever works for you, lol.

That’s my PSA for now…Hope everyone had a fantastic weekend.

Peace & Blessings

Have something you want to share about HIV/AIDS in the African-American Community, send your comments to hivdoc@theselfshow.com

The season premier of The SELF Show is up, check it out on Myspace @ www.myspace.com/theselfshow or www.theselfshow.com …this episode features interviews with the lovely LisaRaye, the talented Keke Palmer, and Gospel powerhouse Fred Hammond.

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